Thursday, May 8, 2014

Answers - Part 2

*Note from Alison, via Chris: There are two more questions that she will get to as soon as she can.

What would you want us to know so we could help those with disabilities who cannot advocate for themselves? - Ed & Consi
I would say to treat us just like normal people all while making sure we have what we need. I shouldn't say “us” or “we” when referring to certain groups because I didn't ask anyone else. And yes, I know it is difficult.

What do you remember about the early days right after the stroke? When did you first understand that it was a stroke? What do you think others who suffer a stroke would want friends and family to say and do when visiting the stroke survivor? - Aunt Sally

I had a lot of extremely vivid dreams, so I can't begin to discern what was real and what wasn't. I kind of hope you can help. I sort of had a dream/memory in which my two maternal aunts visited me in St. Luke's with flowers from my house in Brookside. I also had a dream in which my attic was fixed up as another bedroom and I was physically ready to work within two weeks of the stroke. Speaking of which, I don't remember thinking it was anything else. And your response was pitch-perfect. Yes, pun intended. My sweet aunt has a doctorate in music education. Is it Aunt Dr. or Dr. Aunt?

What parts of your days bring you most joy now? How has your view of God/relationship with him changed (if at all)? - Allison Wollenhaupt

Anything that breaks up my days, like when a friend stops by or sends a letter/card/bouquet...or an email. As for God, He is so much bigger than I can comprehend, brain-damaged or not.

I have two questions: 1) what is the most surprising thing about stroke recovery (surprising good or surprising bad) and 2) would you ever consider writing a book? - Erica Short

I have been shocked by how much time has elapsed. Entire people have been made and in terms of development, surpassed me in some ways. And yes.

Since I am a foodie...did having the stroke change the way any of your favorite foods taste? - Dee Foreman
No, and it is both a blessing and a curse.

What surprising things have you learned about yourself since the stroke, good or bad? How has your stroke affected your relationship with God? How has your stroke affected your relationship with Chris? - Jenny

I have gotten to be a lot more patient with others and myself and with God. If anyone out there has access to mind-reading equipment, I'd like to borrow it. I can't do anything and have had to relinquish control. Chris says I am not a burden, but I'm not so sure.

How has the stroke affected your marriage and relationships with other relatives and friends? - Crystal Lewis

Why does it feel like I just answered this question? Just kidding. Completely. I can't cook or eat or eat out. This, in and of itself, has completely altered my social life. It's funny how others treat me. Some are comfortable with me, 100 percent. Others are half-and-half, while other people are uncomfortable as can be. What I have learned is it isn't about who loves me most. It's about who is simply at ease.


anakinsnana said...

I love you.....and your sense of humor!! MIL

Michelle Julian said...

You should right a book, you are funny and have an amazing way of expressing yourself in words.

Anonymous said...

Hey Alison and Chris! I was finally able to caught up on the blogs. You both are such inspirations! I'll have to remember to thank Ahab for the intro plus the two or three times at the gym. :-) I'm not in your situation or ever been in one remotely similar, but to read about you both and how not only did you survive all this, you are thriving is just so profoundly moving. I feel such hope that no matter what life will throw at me that there will always be true love in the form of family, spouses, friends and God.

Well, my question was in response to your answer about marrying a Wilson. You said it was the second best thing. I was wondering what the first was.

Liv Schmitt